How I Stopped Overthinking in Love & Started Receiving!
Love isn’t supposed to feel like you’re doing all the work.
I used to replay every text.
Analyze every word.Wonder if I was too much, too needy, or not enough?
Overthinking became my second language when I was falling for someone—because deep down, I didn’t trust that love could be easy, or that I could just receive it.
But the truth is: real love doesn’t need to be chased. And when I started healing that part of me that was always on edge, everything in my relationship shifted.
Here’s how I stopped overthinking in love—and opened myself up to actually receiving it.
1. I Got Honest About Where My Anxiety Was Coming From
It wasn’t just about him texting back.
It was about my need for reassurance, fear of abandonment, and past wounds that hadn’t fully healed.
Once I stopped blaming love and started looking at the version of me that was afraid to lose it, I finally made room to understand myself—not just react.
2. I Started Letting Him Show Up
I used to beat him to everything—planning the dates, initiating the conversations, overcompensating to prove I was “worth it.”
Now? I pause. I lean back. I allow space.
And in that space, I’ve watched him rise to meet me.
Because men love to show up for you when you’re open to receiving.
3. I Softened My Inner Voice
The way we talk to ourselves shapes the way we experience love.
When I overthought everything, it was because my inner voice was loud with fear:
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- “He’s pulling away.”
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- “You said the wrong thing.”
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- “He’s going to get tired of you.”
Now I gently remind myself:
“I am safe. I am loved. I don’t have to perform to keep love.”
4. I Let Go of the Need to Control the Outcome
Overthinking is a form of control.
It’s trying to prepare for the worst so you won’t get hurt.
But soft love isn’t about bracing for pain—it’s about trusting your heart can hold joy, too.
Now, instead of clinging to expectations, I stay present.
I let things unfold naturally. And I trust that what’s meant for me won’t pass me by.
5. I Receive With Grace (Even When It Feels Unfamiliar)
This was hard at first.
Letting someone love me without strings.
Accepting compliments without deflecting.
Receiving help without guilt.
But the more I allowed myself to receive—from a place of worthiness, not fear—the more love flowed into my life.
Final Thoughts:
I don’t have it all figured out.
But I do know this:
Overthinking kept me in survival mode.
Receiving keeps me in love mode.
And soft love—real, safe, reciprocal love—only comes when we stop trying to earn it and simply open our hearts to it.
You don’t have to chase love to deserve it.
You are already worthy of the love you dream of.
Let it in.
